Never Say Never

A good friend told me last year to “Never say never.” She was talking about love and relationships. I poo-pooed her admonishment at the time. The universe had other plans. Or as we pagans are prone to say “Make plans and the Gods laugh.”

My plan was to remain single for the remainder of my life. Over the past few days, that plan got blown to smithereens. I had been talking to another trans woman for a few months now, and we had gotten close. It was (I thought) a platonic friendship. We had started talking about her moving here, because quite honestly, where she lives now isn’t safe.

I was making early plans to get an apartment with her in one of the local “gayborhoods.” We’d been talking, video chatting, and just generally getting to know one another. Compatibility is important when you are thinking about living with someone. That’s especially true when you’ve been through trauma such as I experienced last year around this time.

Then, over this past weekend, the tone of the conversations changed. It seemed we were becoming much closer than just platonic roommates. She broached the topic of what was happening first, and I was definitely hard pressed to deny it. We said it out loud last night to a few mutual friends. “We are a couple. It’s not just platonic like we both planned.” This morning, we announced officially on Facebook, and to our various mutual friends. We are “in a relationship” as Facebook calls it.

Facebook understates it, so let me say it plainly. I’m in love. I really never expected this to happen again. So much trauma in my past. But with her, I can let that go. I can feel again. I am deliriously happy. It’s still going to be the spring when she joins me here. There’s a couple of very good reasons to not move faster. Those aren’t things I will discuss here. The point here is to let you, my friends, in on my happiness. You’ve been here through the trials and tribulations. Welcome to the joy.

And the journey continues. Now, it won’t be a lone journey.

Tags: life, love, trans, Transgender