Just need to get something off my chest.
As you likely know, my father passed away in January 2021. We hadn’t spoken in a dozen or so years. He didn’t approve of my life choices. It was difficult nonetheless that we weren’t able to reconcile, but I got past that. Or so I thought anyway.
Tonight, my female cousin on his side reached out to me, at the request of his widow, my stepmother. My cousin asked for permission to provide my contact info. It seems that his will is being probated and they needed my contact info for that process. I told my cousin she could provide my info to stepmom.
Mind you, unless I am sorely mistaken, there isn’t much to probate, and nothing I’d particularly want from him, or her. Anyway, I’m not exactly looking forward to hearing from the stepmother. It’s just brought up unresolved pain. For example, she deadnamed me in his obituary.
And now, that’s off my chest. At least, I hope so.
An Aging Trans Woman 
Hugs, Janet.
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Thanks Ali. 💜
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I also would have provided the contact information. We turn-the-other-cheek. Let them be the ones to turn their back.
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I think that’s the right thing to do and you’re being the bigger person. Hugs all around.
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I hope all is well by you.
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I’m doing relatively well. I could complain, but it wouldn’t accomplish anything. 🤷♀️
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Dead naming in an obituary is a next level shitty thing to do. Sorry about that. Hopefully this will pass without incident or too much annoyance mentally.
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Yeah, that definitely stung. But I’ve had some time, and I’ve largely gotten past it. Thanks Nathan.
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Excellent to hear. People can be pretty petty even during the worst times.
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